Beating the Roommate Blues

If you’re lucky, you’ll find a roommate that you love. So many of my friends are still close with their freshman year roommates, and some are even living with them junior and senior year. I, on the other-hand, was not as lucky. My roommate and I “met” on Facebook, and when we got to talking we realized how similar we actually were. We had the same interests, same hobbies, and same addiction to coffee. It seemed like a match made in heaven and I couldn’t wait to move in and have a new best friend. Our first couple weeks we were incredibly close as we really didn’t know many other people. Then she began spending more time with the people she met in her classes, and I began spending more time with the people I met in my classes, and before we knew it we barely saw each other. But, we were still roommates and I still loved coming home and telling her about my day and hearing about hers.

Then, the drama started. As a disclaimer, I was very much afraid of conflict at this point in my life and didn’t say something when I should have, so everything isn’t entirely her fault. Anyways, my roommate wasn’t very good at being single. Long story short, I essentially had a third roommate at almost all points of the semester. That, combined with the boyfriend drama and her inability to clean or be responsible pretty much drove me up a wall (if you couldn’t tell by now). It eventually got to the point where we didn’t speak to each other and we just co-existed. By the end of the year, I couldn’t wait to move out, unfortunately.

My advice: do your best to get to know someone before you decide to be roommates. I’m honestly not sure if there’s one particular thing to do that lands someone a good roommate as opposed to a bad one, but remember that communication is key. Talk about your expectations before-hand. Do you both go to bed late? Does a messy room bother both of you? What are the rules with over night guests? Don’t be afraid to lay it all out there; if you don’t, you could end up in a situation like mine. If you have a good roommate (like I did this year) it will be one of the most fun and happy years of your life. And remember, having a bad roommate isn’t the end of the world. You’ll make other friends and hangout other places and before you know it your first year will be over and you won’t know where the time went.

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